JANE'S STORY ROPE

I was recently in Africa & showed Jane from Kenya, how to tell her story by making a story rope.

As she tied on ribbons and fabric strips that reflected the good & really hard parts of her story, she began to see that God knew about everything that she had gone through & He cares.

Jane shares her story rope in this video.

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For more about Jane making her rope: Jane Ties On Her Story Click here. This links to my other blog, The Creative Process.

OFF TO AFRICA

I'm leaving for Abuja, Nigeria today, to attend the Movement for African National Initiatives Consultation 2011. A thousand leaders have been invited, 850 of them from African nations.

I've been invited as a creative specialist to listen and offer out-of-the-box solutions, ideas to help them in the process of reaching their goals.

With that in mind, I'm bringing African fabrics cut precut into strips, ready to share how to make a story rope. The African leaders might find these helpful in their ministries of sharing the Gospel, discipleship & healing. May God open the doors for my sharing with humility. The story ropes are His idea & His to give away.

More about preparing for Africa. click: The Creative Process

(photo) In Rwanda where making the story ropes started, Marge surrounded by the World Relief staff holding the story ropes, each had just created. Marge showed the women how to create their own 'story rope' using local fabrics, ribbons & buttons. They took turns sharing their stories of suffering mixed with God's mercy.

"I was able to see my life right in front of me," said Josephine, a mother of five. 'I was amazed at the grace of God upon my life...reminded that I don't deserve God's love, yet He chose to love me before I knew him." From the World Relief article: Patchwork of Hope

TEARS IN KOSOVO

"If that was the only thing I did in Kosovo, it would have been worth it."

Melinda Elliot telling about her experience using the story rope with the mostly Albanian team during her 3 wks. in Kosovo. She is holding the story rope she made in Kosovo to demonstrate the process. (top photo)

In Kosovo. The smiles on the women's faces belie the earlier 1 1/2 hrs. of tearful sharing about their life stories. Although this team has been together for two years,this was the first time the women were able to openly talk about things that they had never shared with each other. (middle photo)

The story rope, like a personal time line, was a catalyst to sharing. Made with local materials, the buttons & ribbons were thoughtfully chosen & tied to a strip of fabric in an order representing a sequence of events. If willing, participants were invited to tell their story using the rope.

This creative activity released each storyteller from the deep burden she had silently carried alone & brought a new level of openness, understanding & empathy between team members. So simple yet so powerful!

(lower photo-Melinda in my studio before Kosovo trip, learning the story rope.)

THE GREATEST GENERATION

I was asked to do story ropes last year with elders in their 80's & 90's at an assisted living residence.

It was so rewarding to sit, listen & watch as they touched & told about each strip representing an important piece of their story. A privilege really to facilitate this looking back.

Some story fragments:

...my childhood was very happy

...then the war

...this was the depression

...and this was Pearl Harbor

...my mother died in childbirth

...there was no work we moved

...Hitler came and it was bad for a long time

...I liked playing in the dirt with my brother's friends

...my father died in Auschwitz

...I went to college

...we were poor

...my mother wanted me to study to get a job

...we went to a lake in Hungary

...we had a wonderful life

Someone I met recently saw the story rope idea & wants to make one with her aging parent in the early stages of Alzheimer's, before all the stories are gone. Deep.

So many situations. So many directions to take this idea.

I've been invited back. I wouldn't miss doing it again.

Photo: My friend, Herb, holding the black rick-rack saying, "This is Pearl Harbor."

TELLING THEIR STORIES

Somewhere in the Back of Beyond
her body black and blue
looking so traumatized husband to another country for work, maybe for years sends no money as promised marries, has second family in there comes back unannounced, moves in, beatings restart "we're going to a party" husband said A trick, takes her to empty apt & rapes her marriage arranged-does not love her beautiful wife & 4 children but girlfriends on the side friends to husband, "beat her, show her who is boss." beatings, beatings, more beatings
1 in 3 women experience domestic violence. This is their reality.
How could we help? We could not fix their problems. Thankfully our NGO friends were there to encourage and help. But we could facilitate having them tell their stories in safe, small groups.
There is something theraputic about working out your story in a tactile way. Our groups of women made story ropes, telling their stories sequentially with ribbons (colors they carefully chose) & tied to a narrow band of their ethnic fabric.
An important part of the process came next - telling their stories. BUT only if they wanted. There was much understanding & support as they took turns sharing - touching each colored ribbon, telling the part of their story it represented.
At the end of each session there were smiles and glowing faces.
One young mom looked at me directly in the eyes and said, "I will never forget this day."

POWER OF TRANSPARENCY

As I was preparing to lead workshops on the topic of forgiveness and reconciliation in the country of genocide, Rwanda, I was challenged here on the home front.

"What do you, as a white woman from America, have to say to genocide survivors on the topic of forgiveness and reconciliation?"

A blunt but fair question. My answer -

"Nothing, absolutely nothing. But I have been through a very dark depression and I know what it is like to feel hopeless, to suffer & feel trapped, wondering if I would ever get better. And I do think I can make quilts to share about that and the process of healing. Yes, I think God can help me do that."

Transparency is powerful. When I was experimenting with story ropes before going to Rwanda, I tied clear saran wrap on after the very black area. That is where I started taking the risk of being transparent sharing my story of a very long, very dark depression, when self esteem was gone and hope lost.

Transparency helps the other person feel safe to share. Click on OUR STORIES on the navigation bar. God wastes nothing.

As Becca and I met with groups of genocide survivors, we both had a story to tell of our broken lives. We were not perfect white women as is often thought in a place like Africa. We had struggled & endured too. But nothing like they had. Never like they had. But our humble little bit of transparency along with honest compassion was enough to break down walls & their sharing after 14 years of silence was nothing short of amazing.

THE RWANDA QUILTS

'Patchwork of Hope' is an article by Rose Busingye, writer on the World Relief Rwanda staff.

It's from a Rwandan's perspective. What did a white woman coming from the US know about the pain and trauma of genocide?

And when Rose heard that the contemporary fabric artist would be using art quilts to teach on the sensitive topic her doubts increased.

Read what happened when I came with my quilts & story rope materials to World Relief Rwanda. Article has photos, stories of the 4 Rwanda Quilts & breakthrough reactions. Here's the link: Patchwork of Hope

Photo: Final presentation was speaking at World Relief's the weekly chapel service. Marge in brown with Becca Smth (the WR country director's wife) in blue & my Rwandan translator.